don’t fucking tell me to walk in a group, in well lit areas, and be aware of my surroundings when little to nothing is being done to discourage the people who make advice like that necessary
do you not think that my fear of being attacked already makes me hyperaware, not only when I am out in the world, but when I hear a thump in the night in my own home?
how about creating a community where that fear is quelled altogether, huh?
More from this today, because we — and the Washington Post and others covering and talking about the recent case of rape by a teacher in Montana — could clearly use it. (via hellyeahscarleteen)
I strongly feel that any time more than one person is involved in a situation or activity, if everyone isn’t truly involved in something they consider sexual and intend to be sexual — and that also means everyone is actively consenting — it’s not sex. When two people put on gloves and other protective gear, get in a ring, and agree to a fight as a sport, with a particular set of agreements (otherwise known as rules), we call it boxing.
When one person walks up to another person on the street and just starts punching them in the face, we don’t call it boxing. We don’t call it “unwanted boxing.” We call it assault.
The Anti Flirt Club - February 27, 1923. “Miss Alice Reighly, 1409 Harvard Street, president of Anti-Flirt Club, which has just been organized in Washington, D.C., and will launch an ‘Anti-Flirt Week’ beginning March 4. The club is composed of young women and girls who have been embarrassed by men in automobiles and on street corners.”
Queer people of color never say we are disabled if we have any choice about it. We come from famillies who believe in being tough, in sucking it up. We can’t afford to take days off work. We do not want any more identities than we already have to wrestle with. Our bodies already seen as tough, monster, angry, seductive, incompetent- how can we admit weakness, vulnerability, interdependence and we still keep our jobs, our perch on the “thin edge of barbwire” we live on? Why would we join crips in the mainstream disability rights movement dominated by white people? What would we get out of it?
The question I ask is: How do we claim this body broken beautiful as not a liability but a gift? To know that interdependence is what has saved us time and time again- as queers and trans people, people of color, women, broke folks. how my lovers and friends help each other survive- passing $20 back and forth across the movement, driving me to groceries when I can’t make it down the stairs. How do we say that my hurting body in bed sucks and is also a beautiful ability to write for hours because I can’t hold down a 9-5 even if I wanted to?
Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha —-READ IT ALL
READ IT ALL.
Capitalism says that disabled, tired bodies that spend too much time in bed are useless. Anyone who cannot labor to create wealth for owners is useless to capitalism. That’s why social programs are cut, why Hitler referred to us as “useless eaters”- we often are not able to be fast, assembly line workers who produce wealth for someone else. Gloria, capitalism said our bodies were useless. We snuck through the hole in our bed to the sky to write about it.
We don’t need to justify ourselves to anyone. We don’t need a reason to be queer. Maybe we were born this way, maybe we weren’t. Maybe sexuality is fluid for some people and not for others. It’s totally irrelevant either way. The message we need to send to heterosexists is not that our sexuality was foisted upon us and that they should be “tolerant” and “understanding”. The message is: our sexuality is perfectly valid and none of your business, we offer you no excuses, and we are never going away.
There isn’t just one Native American culture. There are hundreds. And there are millions of Native people. And we’re being ignored. We’re being told that we don’t have rights over how we are represented in mainstream America. We are being told that we should ‘get over it’ - but the people who are saying this don’t even know what the issues are. When people know of us only as a ‘costume,’ or something you dress up as for Halloween or for a music video, then you stop thinking of us as people, and this is incredibly dangerous because everyday we fight for the basic human right to live our own lives without outsiders determining our fate or defining our identities.Jessica Metcalfe (via nitanahkohe)